LIFE AS WE SEE IT: April 2011

Wednesday 27 April 2011

NEWS: Man Sues Strip Club, Claims He Got So Drunk He Put $18,930 on His Credit Card

I believe that it's the man's fault. Why should the strip club be responsible for the choices he made? He is a grown man who acted irresponsibly. How can we honestly expect the bartender to keep track or babysit all the club goers. Is that really his job or is it just to sell alcohol? It is nice of those bartenders who do that, to do that for it is more of a moral responsibility, for their job is really to sell as much liquor as possible. We are asking the bartender to observe all drinkers and refuse them when they believe they are incapacitated. That request is reasonable but not that easy. Why should the bartender spend more than half his time babysitting us?

Are we willing to pay him extra for the additional work that we are asking of him? Why to do we strip ourselves of responsibility by casting blame on another like the strippers do with their clothes, in the strip club, that he voluntarily went to, drank and enjoyed the show. I wonder what excuse he is going to give for being at the strip club in the first place. What about that saying “the customer is always right”? By stopping the man from drinking, are we not telling him he is wrong to continue drinking? How many of us had friends denied that they are drunk when told that they were, even us ourselves? What do you think a stranger will have to go through in a situation like that especially one that is occupied with many other patrons who also may be in the same position? If we start blaming the bartender, I will not be surprise to see more people trying to scam bars by intentionally running up a tab, playing drunk and suing them.

I would also say there are clubs that may intentionally put you in a position to make you want to show off your drinking skills but the choice was yours to go down that drunken road. The club is only wrong if they had rack up a false bill for the customer to pay. That will be a real scam. Where was his friends and if he knew he couldn't hold his alcohol then he shouldn't be drinking or he should have said no when he first felt that buzz or after 2 drinks. We really need to stop blaming people for our obvious failures to do the right thing. Some people have a tendency to show off and pretend to have money especially when they are under the influence but again it’s a choice.

But that is only my view on how I see it.
How do you see things?

Saturday 23 April 2011

The Basis of Wisdom and Ignorance

Wisdom I believe is a must needed trait. After all it’s said “with wisdom comes understanding”. I see that ignorance seem to be the theme of the day and only few are the wiser to it. They say “knowledge is power” but which type of person would you prefer to wheel it, an ignorant one or a wise one? Don’t we all wish that the saying “with age comes wisdom” was always true but unfortunately it is not. Some people seem to get more ignorant as they get older or remain as they are without knowledge.

It’s unfortunate that information isn’t always available when needed or when it is, it’s not always correct, causing our knowledge to be limited. It will take one wise enough to humble themself and admit they are without knowledge and make the extra effort to seek and gain the information needed. Maybe then the right choices will be made out of wisdom, rather than the wrong one out of ignorance. Cause what sense will it make to have knowledge and not know what do with it and be ignorant rather than have the knowledge and know what to do with it and be wise.
So see deep within yourself and tell me, do you see yourself as been wise or seeking to be?

Saturday 16 April 2011

THE FEAR OF TRUTH

Lies are what some of us use to protect oneself or others from hurt and pain but sometimes those same lies ends up hurting us and the ones we tried to protect even more. The truth sometimes hurt but lies when found out, may ultimately destroy everything we hold dear to us. For the hurt is once when truth is spoken but twice when a lie is revealed.
We often think that the truth will not come out but all that thought ends up being are wishful. We forget that the future is unknown and anything can be revealed, that we are not really in complete control of our future, especially when others are involved. Instead we pretend to be in a safe place when our lies are believed and taken as truth. That everything is OK when we have people to support those lies even though they are also being lied to.
It’s sad when people put all their faith in you without especially without question and you put them in a position to carry a lie that you have created because the truth is that they may not have believed the lie but their faith in you brought them to support and believe the lies that you have told. Are your relationships really worth loosing because of lies? I know you think it’s not because by lying you are saying that it’s not worth loosing because of the truth. You have fail to realise that by lying you may sealing your faith of having that lost when the truth finally comes out.
We need to stop being naive and face the fact that the saying “What’s in the dark will come in the light” and “The truth will set you free” are more than just words. They are more truth than the lies that are made to appear to be truth. Yes, it is hard at time to tell the truth when harm will be done to an individual but it’s harder to accept the lies that was told and still have to swallow the truth that is now know to you.
So are there such things as carrying a secret to your grave or is it just an imaginary concept. One may not realise that lies are the foundation of which blackmail is made because by refusing to tell the truth you give others the power and leverage to hold the truth against you. Believe it or not, what you don’t know can and sometimes will hurt you and not if you someone else.
So see the truth for what it is and don’t get blinded by the lies.